Before marrying Robert, I had my doubts about marrying a divorcee with a kid. Having never been married and without any kids myself, I wasn't quite sure how things would turn out for us. After marrying Robert, however, and spending time with Patrick, I realized that I was getting a pretty good deal. Robert was due to his previous experience, what you would call "house broken." He was and continues to be so patient with me and Patrick is always a joy to have around.

I am not saying we are a perfect family without any problems whatsoever, but there is lots of love in our house and our hearts and we try and make it work one way or another.

One of the first things that happened that made me realize marrying someone with more experience was a good thing, was when I was preparing for a weekend trip with Robert. I told Robert to pack his stuff and when I went to the bedroom I saw all his clothes that he was planning to bring with him neatly arranged on the bed. "why didn't you put them in the suitcase?" I asked. "Because I knew you were just going to take them out and pack them in your own way." He answered.
That was great, but now he doesn't even pack for himself anymore, since he knows I will just pick other clothes for him anyway :)

The other wonderful thing about being married to a man who has already been married once is that he doesn't argue with you about every little thing. He pretty much knows that saying "yes dear" will solve 50% of your problems and the other 50% will be solved with flowers, jewelry, and "I am sorry dear."

Now if there are things that Robert does that still bug me, I always have Patrick on my side. If Robert is being selfish or lazy or otherwise not being the good and loving husband that he should be, Patrick turns around and says: "This is exactly what you did that used to annoy my Mom and she left you." And that's enough for Robert to get the clue and start paying attention to me :)

A few months ago we were at a friend's house for dinner and an argument broke out between the host couple. Voices were raised and angry words exchanged. We were quietly watching the battle along with the couple's kids. All of a sudden I heard Patrick turn to his friend and say: "Don't worry, divorce isn't too bad. Look at me; I got Maryam."

That was enough to make everyone laugh and forget about the arguement. I am pretty happy I got Robert and Patrick too.